Shit People Say When You Come Out
The Siren Staff The Siren Staff August 5, 2014

Shit People Say When You Come Out


Coming out as an LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, intersex, or asexual) person isn’t something you do just once: you come out to various family, old and new friends, and members of your community all throughout your life. This can be especially tiresome if you “read” as straight (say you’re a feminine lesbian woman or a masculine queer transman). Regardless, here are some stupid things we members of the LGBTQIA community are sick of hearing.

(Note to straight people – please don’t say these things.)

(If you’re struggling with coming out, check out for a helpful guide.)

1. “It’s probably just a phase.”Beyonce Obama Shade

Maybe you being straight is a phase.


2. “My cousin is gay too! Do you want me to set you two up?”Dave Chappelle Thumbs Up

Um, I’m good, but thanks?


3. “I went to pride two years ago!”OINTB Pride

Of course you went to pride. Pride is fun.


4. “How do you know you’re not-straight if you’ve never had straight sex?”Zayn Malik Smiling

First of all, being queer is not all about sex. Secondly, how do you know you’re not queer if you’ve never been with someone of the same gender?


5. Didn’t you used to date someone of the opposite sex?Clueless Whatever

Yep! Some people realized dating members of the opposite gender wasn’t for them; some like dating members of the opposite gender and also want to date people of the same gender. Either way, it’s not really any of your business what I did in the past.


6. “How do lesbians have sex?”Aubrey Plaza Eating Watermelon

The real question isn’t how do lesbians have sex, it’s how do they stop.


7. “So do you want to have sex with me?”The OC Seth Awkward

No. I’m good.


8. “Have you ever tried being straight?”Demi Lovato Thumbs Up

Seeing as we live in a heteronormative (where heterosexuality is assumed of everyone) world, most of us grow up thinking we’re supposed to be straight. That’s why coming out and being true to ourselves is so important!


9. “So will you be my gay best friend now?”Leslie Knope Gay

No. I’m not an accessory.

Featured image by Hai Linh Truong, used under a Creative Commons license.

The Siren Staff

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The student staff of the East Los High Siren, bringing you all the news and everyday realness from East LA and beyond!

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