Coming out as an LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, intersex, or asexual) person isn’t something you do just once: you come out to various family, old and new friends, and members of your community all throughout your life. This can be especially tiresome if you “read” as straight (say you’re a feminine lesbian woman or a masculine queer transman). Regardless, here are some stupid things we members of the LGBTQIA community are sick of hearing.
(Note to straight people – please don’t say these things.)
(If you’re struggling with coming out, check out http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/the-guide for a helpful guide.)
Maybe you being straight is a phase.
Um, I’m good, but thanks?
Of course you went to pride. Pride is fun.
First of all, being queer is not all about sex. Secondly, how do you know you’re not queer if you’ve never been with someone of the same gender?
Yep! Some people realized dating members of the opposite gender wasn’t for them; some like dating members of the opposite gender and also want to date people of the same gender. Either way, it’s not really any of your business what I did in the past.
The real question isn’t how do lesbians have sex, it’s how do they stop.
No. I’m good.
Seeing as we live in a heteronormative (where heterosexuality is assumed of everyone) world, most of us grow up thinking we’re supposed to be straight. That’s why coming out and being true to ourselves is so important!
No. I’m not an accessory.
Featured image by Hai Linh Truong, used under a Creative Commons license.